I would never…

As you do before you have a child of your own you judge parents for how they deal with their kids. I know I had many preconceived ideas. There were many things I would and would not do with my child. I probably have many more of these notions that I will go against.

Some of my set in stone ideas I had before Graeme:

  • I would only breast feed until 3 months, was the idea before I fell pregnant. Then while pregnant I heard all the benefits so it moved to 6 months. Then once I started I loved it so moved it to a year. I only stopped at 14 months.
  • I would use toweling nappies. This one I really did have goo intentions with and I gave it a good go. I had about 40 toweling squares and all the junk that goes with clothe nappies. But Graeme has skinny legs and every time he did any thing in the nappy it leaked. My failed clothe nappy attempt.  
  • I would never co-sleep. Lets just say I found it easier to breastfeed in my sleep and he is still in the bed half the night.
  • My child would never eat junk. He does enjoy his occasional packet of flings.
I am sure there are many more… 
What set in stone ideas changed once you had a child?


For a while now the idea of donating breast milk has appealed to me, but Bearn has not been so keen on the whole idea.

The other day was the straw on the camel’s back as they say and a friend on Facebook posted that they needed breast milk for 5 prem babies. I asked her where the babies were, but they were in Durban so that was not really an option. But the friend then said why don’t I contact some one in my area. So I have, Milk Matters.

The first thing Bearn says is will I have enough milk for Graeme, I wont be able to feed him. Of course I would have milk for Graeme, and I explain the more I pump the more milk I have – but he knows all this before I tell him.

Then he says it will cost as money because we have to use our expensive bags – no we use their bottles which are dropped off (so no petrol too.

I need a HIV and Hep C/ B ( can’t remember which) “Ah ha, we have to pay for the blood work.” Bearn stated triumphantly. That went out the window too as they will pay as long as you have their form with you.

So I have now started collecting milk for them, it feels good to be able to help others in some way. Especially since I cant donate blood because I am breast feeding. A good middle ground. (Still don’t know why Bearn is not do keen on the whole idea.)